Have you ever been obsessed by this thought that why the nice people are always sadder than the nasty ones? Most people believe this but what the reason could be?
Nice people by definition are always supposed to say pleasant encouraging compliments to everyone even if they have to be dishonest. For example one friend had an awful piano performance and they say “wow! that was great!” in order not to make that friend sad or discouraged.
On the other hand the nasty people always say brutal unkind discouraging things even if they’re not being honest. One friend had a perfect piano performance and they say “wow! that was great” showing the exact converse expressions on their faces!
Now I want to relate these two opposite attitudes to happiness. Although we heard and read a lot about not caring what others think of us, our happiness is based on our need to be appreciated by others .
There is a fact that we intent to think that people are similar to us. We think they feel, analyse and do things exactly as we do.
So if we are a nice person and we are paid even extravagant compliments by others, we think they’re just being nice. so we don’t believe them, we don’t take their compliments seriously and we don’t feel good and appreciated.
On the other hand if we are a nasty person and we are subjected to unkind brutal comments about what we’ve done, we think they’re just being nasty. So we don’t believe them, we don’t take their comments seriously and we don’t feel bad and rejected and unloved!
That’s why the nice ones are mostly sad and the nasty ones are mostly happy!