LYING IS BAD!!!
This has been a valid statement during centuries. It has been repeated over and over in so many different ways, there have been movies, plays, stories and poems made based on this moral and reminded the human beings of the fact that LYING is bad.
EVERYONE is aware of it, EVERYONE agrees with it and EVERYONE hates being lied to, even the professional liers!
But why nothing has changed so far? Why do we still lie to each other and still hate being lied to, even though we are all aware of this wise statement? Could it be because this valid statement is not practical?! Instead of accusing the liers of being immoral maybe we need to reprimand those who are being lied to, because they wouldn’t react reasonably if they were being told the truth! Maybe instead of repeating this statement over and over we need to strengthen ourselves to absorb the truth as bitter and unpleasant as it is, then see if LYING still survives in the world or not.
The BAD exists whether we are aware of it or not, because there is a reason for its existence and apparently it’s not going to just go away because we are AWARE of it.
There’s a huge difference between needing something and wanting something. When you need something you can’t feel happy without it, when you want something you can feel happy without it but you feel happier if you have it!
Not having what you need is your worst nightmares and having what you want is your sweetest dreams!
If you think about it there is nothing much you need! So it must be easy to feel happy. and there are so many things you want so that you have a reason to wake up every morning! “to follow what you want”
I understand that some people may not understand quite enough, what I don’t understand is why do they keep trying so hard not to understand! It seems they are so frightened of understanding! They are so afraid of thinking! So ashamed of using their mind!
You know that they’re not that different from other people and the only difference they have is being so sure about whatever they do or say, but they generate this need inside you that makes you long for their attention and approval all the time! Even though the logical side of you can find so many flaws and shortcomings in their character but in your subconscious you are obsessed with winning their admiration! You could be so annoyed by yourself if you found one of these confident normal people around you!
Be the one who people seek their approval! Be confident!
When you can’t find what/who you would love to have, you start making him/her/it up in your dreamland, you start fantasizing about having him/her/it around your and enjoying him/her/it. After a while the realistic side of you wakes up and threatens you that you’re going crazy, that you should stop considering your dreams so real and live like a normal sane human being! And you, who are freaking out about turning into an insane thing, deprive yourself of the dreamland, try to forget all about him/her/it and keep yourself busy with serious sane real stuff.
But suddenly in your normal sane life you see or hear something that reminds you of your made-up person/thing, reminds you of your dreamland and the joy you used to have there, and you miss him/her/it!! You literally miss someone/something that doesn’t exist! You miss the unreal!
Have you ever been obsessed by this thought that why the nice people are always sadder than the nasty ones? Most people believe this but what the reason could be?
Nice people by definition are always supposed to say pleasant encouraging compliments to everyone even if they have to be dishonest. For example one friend had an awful piano performance and they say “wow! that was great!” in order not to make that friend sad or discouraged.
On the other hand the nasty people always say brutal unkind discouraging things even if they’re not being honest. One friend had a perfect piano performance and they say “wow! that was great” showing the exact converse expressions on their faces!
Now I want to relate these two opposite attitudes to happiness. Although we heard and read a lot about not caring what others think of us, our happiness is based on our need to be appreciated by others .
There is a fact that we intent to think that people are similar to us. We think they feel, analyse and do things exactly as we do.
So if we are a nice person and we are paid even extravagant compliments by others, we think they’re just being nice. so we don’t believe them, we don’t take their compliments seriously and we don’t feel good and appreciated.
On the other hand if we are a nasty person and we are subjected to unkind brutal comments about what we’ve done, we think they’re just being nasty. So we don’t believe them, we don’t take their comments seriously and we don’t feel bad and rejected and unloved!
That’s why the nice ones are mostly sad and the nasty ones are mostly happy!
There are moments in life that you just hate life and whatever which is connected to it absolutely for no reason. All the intelligent people seem stupid, all the funny guys are lame, all your friends are lairs, you family is careless and ignorant, all the nice fellows are fake, the weather is too hot or too cold! And you don’t know to blame whom for it: the hormones? the society? the Human rights organization!
The only thing you know is that life is so meaninglessly exhausting and pointless. The only desire that makes you feel relieved at these moments is death, is the end of this bullshit. Not that you want to kill yourself out of depression, but you are just sick of your existance! You want NOT TO BE anymore!
But all you really need is giving yourself some time. All these shitty moments will pass sooner or later and you feel life again as exhausting and pointless as it is. It happened many times before, so it will happen this time as well.